Whom and what do you ENVY? Who has envied you? What’s the difference between jealousy and envy? How has ENVY impacted your life?
Barbara Rick, a Peabody & Emmy award-winning filmmaker/journalist based in New York City, and president and founder of Out of The Blue Films, Inc., explored these questions and more in Tuesday’s essay at red Ravine, Cracking Envy (Or How I Learned To Stop Romancing A Deadly Sin).
Now it’s your turn! The Out of The Blue Films “ENVY Contest” at red Ravine has officially launched. This is a call for entries to share your essays, short stories, poems, haiku, watercolors, oils, photographs, and music about envy. One of you will win a new Amazon Kindle. And any and all entries, or excerpts of them, could end up in the groundbreaking documentary on ENVY from Out of The Blue Films, Inc.
Is ENVY the worst of the Deadly Sins? How does it look and sound to you? Can you touch, smell or taste envy? To get the juices flowing, you might want to read a bit of history at WRITING TOPIC – THE 7 DEADLY SINS. Then do a few Writing Practices that you can turn into a polished piece.
Below are the details you’ll need to submit your work. Contest ends at midnight, August 15th, 2009. Don’t miss this opportunity to feature your work in film. Or the chance to win an Amazon Kindle from Out of The Blue!
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Out of The Blue Films “ENVY Contest”
Submission Guidelines
ENVY is the latest project from Out of The Blue Films, Inc., in keeping with the company’s longstanding mission to tell inspiring stories that explore, articulate, educate, and celebrate humanity. Below are the guidelines for the Out of The Blue Films “ENVY Contest” at red Ravine.
♦ What To Submit
All original writing and artwork is accepted for prize consideration. This includes, but is not limited to, essays, short stories, poems, haiku, watercolors, oils, collages, drawings, photographs and music. We will accept entries in most formats, but prefer doc, rtf, txt, pdf, jpg, tiff, wav, mp3. Please limit your writing to 1000 words or less, and keep all attachments under 5MB.
♦ How To Submit
Send all entries electronically (do not send originals). If submitting more than one work to the contest, please send a separate email for each. Write ENVY CONTEST in the subject line, include the following information in the body of your email, and attach your submission:
Full Name: (If you prefer to remain anonymous please put the word ANONYMOUS in caps, after your name.)
Email:
Address:
Type of Submission: (short story, essay, poetry, photography, drawing, oil, collage, haiku, watercolor, audio, other)
Format of Submission: (doc, rtf, txt, pdf, jpg, tiff, wav, mp3)
ALSO INCLUDE THE FOLLOWING STATEMENT: “I have read and agree to the terms and conditions of this contest and I certify that this is my original work.”
♦ Where To Submit
Send all submissions electronically by August 15th to Out of The Blue Films, Inc. at contest@outofthebluefilms.com.
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Terms & Conditions
The following conditions apply to the ENVY Contest sponsored by Out of The Blue Films, Inc. Before submitting, please read the Terms & Conditions:
June 11, 2009
Out of The Blue Films, Inc. and/or Barbara Rick, Inc. (together, “Producer”) welcome you to submit any writings, artwork, photographs, poems or other materials created by you (all of such materials being “Materials”) for possible inclusion in Producer’s documentary (the “Film”) currently titled and whose subject will be “ENVY”. By submitting any Materials, whether via this website or otherwise, you agree as follows:
1. Producer and its assigns and licensees will have the perpetual, non-exclusive, royalty free right and license (without the obligation to pay you any sums or other consideration), throughout the universe to use all or any portion of the Materials in the Film and in the distribution, advertising, sale, licensing, commercial use or other use thereof in any and all media, whether or not now invented (including theatrical or television exhibition, viewing via DVD, the internet, on cell phones or other devices), and in the exploitation of any and all ancillary and subsidiary rights relating to the Film, including merchandise, soundtracks and books based on the Film. Producer need not return any Materials, however as between you and Producer all underlying copyright and intellectual property rights to the Materials will remain your property. Producer’s sole rights to the Materials will be the uses described in these terms.
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3. It shall be entirely in Producer’s discretion whether or not to make use of any Materials in connection with the Film. Should Producer wish to use any of the Materials in connection with the Film Producer will notify you that it plans on doing so (but Producer will have no obligation to make such use regardless of a notification). If the Materials do in fact appear in the Film you can receive on-screen credit under your real name or a pseudonym, whichever you prefer. You may also not be credited at all if you wish. If the Materials are to be used you should send an email with your credit preference to: info@outofthebluefilms.com.
4. An Amazon Kindle will be awarded as a prize to the person who submits what Producer deems, in its sole discretion, to be the best Materials. The criteria to be used for making such determination will be up to Producer, the decision will not be subject to any appeal and Producer need not explain the basis for its determination.
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PLEASE NOTE that (i) by submitting any Materials you agree to all of these terms, and (ii) Producer reserves the rights, at any time, to revise these terms, and the terms as so revised will apply to any Materials submitted after the time of revision.
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Barbara, ybonesy and I are excited to see what the collective creative minds have to say, photograph, write, paint (etc.) about ENVY. It’s been fun to work with you on getting the word out on your project. It’s a good topic.
I wondered if I could take this opportunity to ask you a little about filmmaking. I have only dabbled in 16mm and 8mm film in the distant past when we really did leave snippets of film “on the cutting room floor.” It was incredibly labor intensive (I was fond of 8mm back then).
Is most film digital now, or do you know filmmakers still working with 16mm film? I imagine the cost of actual film to be prohibitive but I don’t know. Vinyl has made a big comeback in music and many bands are releasing vinyl along with CD. Will filmmakers go back to real film?
Another question, what kind of cameras do you use?
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Although I won’t be able to enter the contest to win the Kindle, I am inspired by the topic of Envy and plan to do a Writing Practice and some sort of either doodle or painting. I am particularly intrigued by the Evil Eye. And how it seems to inflict damage on the person who is recipient.
BTW, I was on the Las Vegas strip last night, and that, to me, seems a hotbed for Envy. Sin City. Wow, it’s like people there have a Las Vegas persona that is all about tiny dresses, huge platform shoes, big hair, big breasts, lots of skin, Hawaiian shirts (for men), hair implants, too-bright-white teeth, and orange-tanned skin. It’s fun to see, to oogle, and to just lose oneself in for a while. People flash what they got.
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QM, thanks for your comments, it’s been a blast for us at OOTB HQ! We are big fans of red Ravine and so happy to be doing this creative experiment with you.
I would say most documentarians are definitely going digital… and, really, film was always too pricey and cumbersome for most of us… you really want to be fluid as possible when covering life cinema verite. 🙂
As Julia in our office points out, lots of short feature films are still shot on 16mm for the look, which is so rich.
We use the HVX-200 right now, a digital HD camera that records on P2 card files rather than tape. It’s pretty high quality and mobile, too. We also had an opportunity to add a second camera, an HDX-900, on some of the shoots we’ve already done which is even better quality.
It’s a constant juggle: quality versus expense.
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ybonesy, can’t wait to see what you’ve got on the E.E.
There is a painting I find particularly inspiring for this project, the one by Salvador Dali that was used in the Hitchcock movie, Spellbound. It’s an eye hanging over a desert… barren, dry, and hopeless: kind of like ENVY.
Ah, Vegas. I don’t ENVY anything at all about Vegas… and I think I’m probably the only person in the world who can go in a casino and not bet at all. Never was my thing.
There’s an ad for a casino resort in Atlantic City that really plays on people’s ENVY… saying stuff like ‘that’s your little black dress she’s wearing.. and your beautiful blonde on his arm..’ You can feel them trying to stir up the ENVY, to lure people to come and splurge… a huge part of marketing/capitalism is built on creating ENVY.
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Thanks, Barbara. Yes, makes sense about the digital filming. Since it would seem with documentaries you’d have to tape a lot of footage to get the shots you need. It seems like the editing software is not inexpensive either. Creative endeavors are most times a battle of quality versus expense, then also having to weigh in the element of time. How long do you spend in the editing room vs time spent shooting the film?
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Barbara, I feel the same way about betting…I have other vices, but that’s not one of them. I do live driving through the desert though. A wonderful beauty. It’s funny about Salvador Dali — it seems like he’s been cropping up everywhere lately. Liz won tickets to see Little Ashes (LINK) (a film by Paul Morrison) a few weeks ago at the Lagoon Theater. It was about a time in the early 1920’s in Spain when poet Federico García Lorca and filmmaker Luis Buñuel meet Salvador Dalí. Lorca and Dalí had such a strange relationship. And there was a lot of envy playing out between Buñuel and Dalí. Intense film. It helps to explain part of why Dalí painted the way he did.
Then today at the unveiling of the MN State Fair poster, I met the artist Leo Stanz (along with Teri who was there, too) and he was referencing Salvador Dalí. Wild. Dalí’s painting style does play into one of the ways one would imagine ENVY to look.
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What a provoking topic (albeit uncomfortable as it is)! It’ll be fun to see where this topic takes me. I’m contemplating about submitting, so we shall see.
Thanks for the promotion! It’s very fascinating!
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This is very interesting. You’re taking The Practice to a new level. At the very least I’ll read the essay and try my hand at the theme. Thanks for offering us this opportunity.
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Hey, QM, thanks for the comments. What great questions you have raised the last few days! On the one about time shooting versus time editing, you know I’ve never really thought about that before…
Seems for feature length docs these days (although there’s no rule, of course) folks are shooting about 100 to 300 hours of footage… but you can be shooting for years at a time, too, even if the aggregate is just a couple of hundred hours.
The editing process itself takes months, depending on the project, some people are even at it for years! So I guess that takes the most time..
The whole relationship between the director & the editor is really an interesting dynamic. It’s so important to have a great collaborating creative force in the editing room; it makes the raw material into something so much greater than what you alone have envisioned.
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QM, I love how you describe the film you and Liz saw… I saw a Dali retrospective a while back at MOMA and was transfixed.
I remember having a Dali poster up on my wall in college. His style sure matched my frame of mind back then.
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Good to hear from you, Christine!
A book I’m reading right now on the subject of ENVY, recommended by one of our scholars, is State of Confusion by Dr. Bryant Welch.
He says this: ‘ENVY is very difficult for people to acknowledge in themselves because it is an acknowledgment that they feel inferior. To acknowledge my ENVY I have to first admit that you are better than I am at something I do not have. Even worse, I have to admit this is so important to me that as a result I have ugly covetous feelings toward you. Ultimately, it is humiliating to experience ENVY.’
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A~Lotus, so nice to hear your comments. Glad you are marinating in ENVY and look forward to anything you might submit.
Thanks for acknowledging that it’s an uncomfortable topic.
The truth helps.
We’re working hard on a National Endowment for the Humanities grant application for the film, and the part we were working on today describes how challenging it’s going to be to hit the exactly right tone with the film, so that people are not driven away by the subject. It’s very hard for people to own up to their ENVY.
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Hello from Palo Alto. The road trip here was not terribly exciting. Pretty boring, in fact.
Barbara, I’m not one for gambling either. Don’t even have the slightest urge to hit a slot machine when I see one. I wish I were as good a poker player as my mom. I might give a poker game or Black Jack a try if I had any skill, but I don’t.
It is so hard to own up to one’s own Envy. I think it’s easy to joke about it. But it’s not a good emotion to own nor own up to. One thing I do, and have for about a year now, is pray most nights as I fall asleep. And I always try to start with what I’m grateful for. Prayer is something I’ve done since I was a child. Our Father and the Hail Mary. Funny how those two prayers come back and help me get through tough times and tough emotions.
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Hi, ybonesy, from still rainy NYC. Soon we will be building an ark here.
That’s a good writing topic: poker playing moms.
Prayer and meditation are a powerful combo that help keep me on track, too.
Praying for people I ENVY works wonders. Tough to do, ultimately VERY effective.
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Barbara: “It’s very hard for people to own up to their ENVY.”
Oh my, yes!! So true!! Which is why I was saying in my other post that it’s hard to admit that people have envy in their veins!! It is part of the human experience–the good, the bad, and well, NOW we’re addressing the UGLY! Also, having envy is a secretive emotion.
My thoughts are bouncing all over the place just mentioning the word “secretive.” Do you know that Post Secret (http://postsecret.blogspot.com/) project? This project is similar to that except that I really like the fact that it focuses one one theme in various media, which really sparks creativity!! And speaking of creativity, ooooh, I think I have lots of fun ideas to play with!!
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Wonderful, A~Lotus, go for it!
It’s been interesting to watch/listen to people’s first reactions to the ENVY doc project. Almost without exception, people smile shyly, slyly, knowingly, saying ‘Ohhhhh, hmmm, ENVY… wow.’
Kind of a good-natured, ‘Hmmm, busted!’
It’s almost as if they think it’s their own little personal secret, and yet there is also a frank acknowledgment that it’s a universal open little secret.
I have indeed heard of that Post Secret project… interesting you’d think of that in connection with this project.
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This is truly an original and out-of-the-blue concept and project with cavernous, redRavine possibilities. Congratulations.
I wish you the blessings of all the muses as you continue to compound your talents through life-affirming film and through yes, this gorgeous blog.
Of course, I’m envious of the entire endeavor. But damn, you go, girls!
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Hahahaha… Touche, Flannista!
Calling all muses… and muses’ blessings for all … 🙂
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Wow! Envy…yikes! I may have to put a lot of thought into this one. Hmm..We’ll see, this is so intruiging. Can’t wait to to the outcome! D
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Still in Palo Alto, home of Stanford University. One of the things that strikes me in this town and this time of year is how where one goes to college, or where one’s kid goes to college, can be a source of Envy. And Pride. And if Greed is the close cousin of Envy, are Envy and Pride a married couple?
But honestly, for most people there is much emotion around where their kid gets accepted to college and where s/he ultimately goes. Lots of emotions, I would expect: sadness or joy, relief, fear (for letting go of the kid and/or costs associated with college), and one of the emotions, I would think, is Envy.
One’s education is one of those attributes—like one’s job, looks, body, income, home, car—that there seems to be a lot of emotional investment. And one’s education seems to have a lasting effect. A Harvard degree will always be a Harvard degree. Thinking aloud out here.
Stanford University is a beautiful campus. I would have loved to go here myself.
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alittlediddy, glad to hear the topic intrigues you!
You also might want to consider trying writing practices of ten minutes on topics like ‘what I know about ENVY’ or ‘what I don’t know about ENVY’ … or ‘people who ENVY me’… because I have noticed that sometimes really powerful stuff emerges for me from these stream of consciousness writing practices on ENVY as opposed to a long hard think. Just a thought…
Very excited to read what you might come up with, and I hope you end up submitting something to the contest!
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ybonesy, I like where you’re going with that… yes, I think education is a big ENVY hotspot.
There’s a book Professor Richard Smith recommended I read which I thought was REALLY interesting called ‘Halfway Heaven’… it’s about two Harvard roommates, one Ethiopian woman and one Vietnamese woman. Turns out the Ethiopian woman murdered the roommate, in a fit of ENVY, well documented because of the extensive journals she left behind.
So many criminal cases are ENVY related but often we never find out because those rich details never see the light of day.
I remember roaming around Stanford a few years ago and I yearned to be able to go there myself.
Also, I remember the neighborhoods, with those gorgeous low-key lovely bungalows, so homey and cozy and perfect… also so out of reach, price-wise. I was definitely envious of the life I imagined the people there lead.
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Barbara, I’ll most likely go with a 10 minute write. There are only 2 times in my 54 years that ENVY has really played a part. Both have the same outcome, but I hope I can make time for this subject. So much happening in the coming weeks, but yes, this subject does interest me. We’ll see… D
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Sounds good, alittlediddy… best of luck with it!
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Barbara, Halfway Heaven sounds intense. That’s envy carried to the extreme — murder. These comments are full of good ideas and places where envy is a hotspot. Sports and colleges are a good addition to the list.
I want to reiterate your point about the WRITING PRACTICES (LINK) as a way to get to some of the underlying feelings about envy. I had added our red Ravine Writing Topic from around a year ago to the body of the post: WRITING TOPIC – THE 7 DEADLY SINS (LINK). But maybe I’ll go back into the post and clarify the point that this is a Writing Topic and Writing Practices can lead to some juicy places. Also, ybonesy and I may post a separate ENVY Topic after people have had time to sit with the initial two posts. We may post our own practices then.
As I’ve been thinking about Envy this week, I’ve had a couple of observations. I don’t tend to envy the material things or status as much as what I “perceive” as clarity of purpose or clarity of thought that certain people may have. For example, I have often envied people who knew (or believed in) what they wanted to do for a living at the age of 8, 9, or 10. Then they built their life around the completion of that goal (the people who as a kid said, hey, I want to be a doctor…and that’s what they did). I have often meandered down that right livelihood path. So the idea of having that much clarity at a young age seems so refreshing.
Other observations: does envy of someone else or what they have imply that you want that person or entity to fail at what they are doing so you look better? Does envy keep us from participating in communities or things that we might enjoy being a part of because we pull back when we perceive that someone is doing better than we are?
I was thinking about how when I first get a twinge of envy, I kind of pull in physically, a kind of closing up. And that leads to pulling into myself that takes away from the possibility of my own growth or expansion. After processing and going through the whole mental thing (or maybe spiritual exercise) of gratitude and service and not comparing myself, I expand back out again and join into the thing I might have originally envied. I don’t know is this makes any sense! I’ll have to do a Writing Practice on it.
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Hi, QM… really enjoyed your musings here… I hope that some of our scholars on the project will have a chance to observe and chime in, since they have the best handle on true ENVY, etc.
But one thing I think IS clear: ENVY is a matter of degrees. The bite is sharper in some cases… like really wanting someone to fail.
A great thing I read in Dr. Ann Ulanov’s book (loosely translated) is the idea that when you deeply ENVY, you are resenting someone’s actual BEING.
And that sometimes it’s easier (lazier) to just want to snuff out the other person’s BEING (not necessarily literally, of course) than to answer your own personal call to action, and BE FULLY yourself.
One of the most interesting aspects of ENVY to me is the concept that ‘I might not want what you have, but I don’t want YOU to have it.’ That’s cold. 🙂
The 9/11 attacks are a good example of ENVY gone wild.
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Barbara, Just saw another reference to Salvador Dalí on Twitter. I’m posting the link here: Salvador Dalí – 1904-1989 – YouTube (LINK) [See Comment from June 11, 2009 at 4:21 pm & one above it]. His work really is sitting right on that shadowy side.
I remember there were references to him, maybe as far back as the 70’s, as being somewhat misogynist in his work. When I saw the film Little Ashes (if the portrayal rings true) there seemed to be a lot of testosterone going around in some of the art movements of that time.
Today, I can see that women and men have taken to the Surrealist vision as one way to make their point on unsavory, unpopular, political issues of the day. It’s always interesting to watch how art movements are changed and adapted over time.
Don’t know what this has to do with Envy per se. Just some thoughts I was having as I watched the Dali imagery. I agree, it could be a vehicle into ideas about images for Envy.
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Oh, another tidbit about that Dali video on YouTube. They use the music of Jeff Buckley – Dream Brother. I think I might have one of his albums in vinyl. If I remember correctly, he may have died from an overdose way before his time. His music seems to fit the imagery and reminds me of possible music ideas about Envy.
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Thanks, QM, I’ll definitely check into Jeff Buckley’s music…
Someone else brought to our attention a Ray Charles song: ‘It Shoulda Been Me’ 🙂
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Just re-read the comments with more attention than I was able to before. The books you mention, Barbara, sound great. I’m curious what the scholars thought when you told them you were going to do a film on Envy. Did anyone say, “It’s about time!”?
Also, I looked for but did not find anything in the comment stream that indicated why you associate Dali’s works with Envy. Can you expand on that, Barbara? What is it about his paintings that evokes the theme?
Oh, and I’m glad that A~Lotus mentioned the brilliant Post Secret project. I check out that website frequently, and some people do admit, albeit anonymously, to having feelings of Envy. Of course, they confess the most amazing things, some of which seems truly cathartic.
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QM, I’m reflecting on your observation about how you tend to envy clarity of purpose moreso than material things. I’m looking at myself and wondering what I envy more—the tangible or intangible. Probably both, depending on what and who it is.
A friend and I used to joke about another friend’s living space; we’d say we had “house envy.” Truth in jest. But it did help to acknowledge that feeling and have a compatriot to share the emotion with. By joking about it, we diluted the actual emotion. I don’t experience house envy these days.
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ybonesy, great to hear your thoughts…
The scholars we’ve contacted, and we’re actually still reaching out to them, usually sound delighted that we’re doing the film, that some real creative attention is being paid to a topic many of them have been studying intensively for years or decades.
Many have been so generous with their time and knowledge… eager to help us… and the ENVY project is going to have so much more texture and truth because of their input.
As for Dali, I had gone to the Museum of Modern Art one afternoon in search of a template for ENVY. One of Errol Morris’ producers, Mark Lipson, had met with me in L.A., and he had suggested that I do a ‘look book’ for my film… something filled with images emblematic of the visual theme I’m striving for in the movie. Mark worked on one of my favorite docs of all time, ‘Thin Blue Line.’
At MOMA, I was just struck by the Dali painting… that eye hanging over the horizon… the barren, sandy endless void… it kind of reminded me of ENVY. Nothing can grow there.
I got postcards of the Dali painting and one by Munch that shows a woman in white standing a short distance from a dark mob. This also reminded me of ENVY. Intriguingly, both paintings, so different, shared many of the exact same beiges, mauves, charcoal. We used a similar background when we hosted the solo show artists’ performances on ENVY.. and the same colors again in the background at the classroom we shot. Probably no one would even notice consciously, but it’s fun to play with color and mood as you go, and can add a lot to the emotional impact overall.
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Hi all, quick note here, the Salvador Dali museum in St Petersburg FL is quite comprehensive – and you really get the full impact of the man’s obsessions, his influences, his crazy ground-breaking past the limits of what anyone thought art might be…a high-heel red satin shoe that belonged to his muse, Gala – with a pool of breast milk? A sodomizing piano? Envy is definitely in there, in his competitive and larger-than-life world. Gala, she is everywhere in his work.
My upbringing was plebeian, my father was a machinist and I had a full ride to a Seven Sister school. I never really envied other people since I was already the Martha Stewart of my small pond (ahem, that is a joke…) But when I go to graduations, graduation parties, weddings of beautiful young smart kids, bar mitzvahs, those kinds of things…I often feel pierced in the heart by a deep pain.
The parents of those kids did not create alcoholic drug addict children. They are most fortunate. They don’t know how lucky they are. I can say I am on the other side of that, and my kids are OK, maybe fabulous, but it still sticks in my throat and burns.
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chickenlil, wow.
‘pierced in the heart by a deep pain’… ‘sticks in my throat and burns’ … powerful descriptions of ENVY at its finest/worst.
thanks for dropping in. hope you are considering a submission for the ENVY contest. would love to read more of what you have to say on it.
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lil, double wow. When I first saw your comment, it brought tears to my eyes. And I wondered, how many mothers can relate to your honesty. Millions, I am sure. I also hope you consider submitting a piece–poetry or narrative, or both. Tell Buzz to get his camera out and do a photo, as well.
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it’s a contest! 😀
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ybonesy, powerful.
aefiel, hope will be participating, too!
last night, i asked a dear friend over a diner meal shared why we didn’t seem as close as we used to be… i have felt a slight drift… he said it wasn’t necessarily anything I had done (although I was feeling a little guilty) but that sometimes it is hard to hear about all my successes.
Whoa.
There have been times I, too, have pulled away from others close to me, but haven’t necessarily consciously known what I was doing or what that was. It was a loving and honest thing for him to say.
We talked it over and held it up to the light and came away closer.
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Am just catching up on some of the comments here –
lil, what a heartfelt comment. The honesty. Like ybonesy says, I’m sure there may be many mothers who share the pain you feel but may not have ever said it. You’ve shared your writing with us on red Ravine and it is powerful. I hope you’ll consider submitting for the ENVY contest.
I appreciate your comments on Dali, too. It was interesting to see how his wife Gala was portrayed in the film Little Ashes (LINK). Did you see that film, lil? It centered around what he called his “Lost Years,” the time with the poet Lorca in Madrid. I also wondered if you’d read any of the books that Dali wrote such as The Secret Life of Salvador Dalí (1942) and Diary of a Genius (1965).
It would be interesting to take a peek inside his mind. I did find a couple of links (for those who want to learn more about Dali):
A thesis which outlines some of the stranger details of his life: relationship to mother, sister, brother with same name who died before he was born, Gala, Napoleon, fear of grasshoppers, lots of strange stuff (LINK).
(LINK) to some of his paintings.
Saved the best for last – a 1965 film clip of Dali and Gala. It’s black and white and only about 15 seconds long. But it’s fascinating to see them, even for a short time, walking in the flesh (LINK).
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Barbara, that’s a powerful personal experience you shared with a friend around envy. Last night after our poetry group, we were talking about the contest and what amazing images, feelings, emotions are brought up by the topic of Envy. Also how people don’t usually talk about it. One woman actually had run into a quote about envy earlier in the day and she was trying to remember where she heard it. Finally, she remembered — it had been in an Al-Anon recovery text.
That reminded me that recovery is one place where we actually have to take a look at envy. Especially if we are working the 12 Steps. It’s part of the recovery process to dig into the more unsavory aspects of our personalities, to take inventory, admit to our flaws, and make amends. Doesn’t mean it’s easy. But I was reminded of how much looking at the shadow side is part of recovery.
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Fascinating, QM….
Love that the poetry group is talking about ENVY… hope they are marinating in possible contributions to the contest…
I’m really thrilled by the growing — and most revealing — discussion about this most corrosive human emotion.
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[…] enter the ENVY contest and learn how to participate, go to the Contest Submission Guidelines. There is no fee to enter. You will be competing for an Amazon Kindle and a chance to have your […]
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[…] enter the ENVY contest and learn how to participate, go to the Contest Submission Guidelines. There is no fee to enter. You will be competing for an Amazon Kindle and a chance to have your […]
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[…] enter the ENVY contest and learn how to participate, go to the Contest Submission Guidelines. There is no fee to enter. You will be competing for an Amazon Kindle and a chance to have your […]
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ENVY contest deadline coming up soon!! We’ve been getting some AMAZING entries.. it’s not to late to throw yours onto the pile. August 15th deadline——
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Off to MN GarlicFest. REMINDER: Writers, artists, poets, photogs – last day of our red Ravine Summer ENVY Contest with Out of The Blue Films (LINK). It ends at Midnight tonight!
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I got mine in already! 🙂 Look forward to the results and the finished product of the documentary! 8)
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Contest ended at midnight August 15th. Thank you for all of your creative submissions! Winners to be announced in a future post on red Ravine. So much gratitude to all who participated in the Out of The Blue Films ENVY Contest at red Ravine!
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Thanks to everyone who participated, and thank you Barbara, for the great collaboration! Looking forward to learning who wins and letting you all know as well.
A recent issue of The New Yorker, btw, had an article about the Amazon Kindle that I started reading last night but couldn’t finish, as I had to drop off into lala land…still a bit jetlagged. But here’s the link for anyone who wants to read about it: A New Page: Can the Kindle Really Improve on the Book? [LINK]
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QM, how was GarlicFest??
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[…] that the staff of Out of The Blue Films, Inc. is in the thick of reviewing submissions to the “ENVY Contest,” which closed on August 15. The lucky winner will receive a brand new Amazon Kindle, the reading […]
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[…] spread our appreciation around, nice and thick, for ALL those who have in some way contributed to The Out of The Blue Films ENVY Contest at red Ravine. Whether you sent in work, considered it, or even just envied the idea from afar (you know who you […]
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[…] L. Ferguson won the Out of The Blue Films, Inc. ENVY Contest at red Ravine for poem/prose Like Paul. As 1st Prize winner, Jill received an Amazon […]
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